About
Hi, I’m Amy Heide.
Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC) · Certified Life Coach
Trauma-informed, attachment-based, and neuroscience-informed
I grew up in a home that was both loving and chaotic.
My parents loved each other deeply, but conflict was loud, passionate, and emotionally immature. Repair was not modeled. Regulation was not taught. Love and intensity were often intertwined.
Later, I found myself in a marriage that echoed those same dynamics, something I never imagined would happen. I believed deeply in love, commitment, and marriage, and leaving was one of the hardest decisions of my life.
What changed me was not only what I had been through, but what I chose to do next
I began the work of intentionally healing the patterns I had learned in childhood. Through attachment theory, I came to understand how early relationships shape the way we respond to closeness, conflict, and connection as adults. That framework gave language to what I had lived and showed me that these patterns are not fixed. They can be understood, healed, and changed.
That understanding changed everything.
Today, I am in a healthy, deeply connected marriage, not because conflict never happens, but because we know how to repair, reconnect, and respond differently. Secure attachment can be built. Patterns can shift.
Throughout my life, people often came to me when their relationships felt painful, confusing, or stuck. Alongside my own lived experience, that awakened a deep curiosity about what drives relational patterns beneath the surface and what truly helps people change them.
I have spent years studying attachment theory, relational dynamics, and the practical side of how people heal and grow. That lens shapes everything about how I work today.
When I discovered the Relational Theory Model, it brought together what I had been looking for: a more direct, structured, and transformative way to help people create real relational change.
RTM integrates attachment science, neuroscience, and proven relational methodologies into a clear, results-oriented framework. It is designed to help individuals and couples move beyond insight alone and begin shifting the patterns that keep them stuck.
If you are looking for more than endless processing, if you are ready for clarity, direction, and meaningful relational growth, I would be honoured to work with you.
